101 – Marriage Advice to Ignore

Common sources of advice that could ruin your marriage

Welcome to episode 101 of the REAL Family Podcast. This podcast offers real help and hope for every family. In today’s episode, we will discuss marriage advice you should ignore.

When your marriage begins to struggle, it’s natural to seek help and advice. Unfortunately, many look to all the wrong places for marriage advice. In today’s podcast, I’ll share a few place and people to avoid when seeking marriage advice.

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100 – A Real Family Podcast Recap

And why I still do what I do

Welcome to episode 100 of the REAL Family Podcast. This podcast offers real help and hope for every family. In today’s episode, we will discuss the history of the REAL Family Podcast.

In the beginning, my personal goal with podcasting was to publish more than seven episodes. I created this goal for myself because I had read statistics that suggested most podcasters don’t make past seven episodes.

Now here we have episode 100. I’m not sure I really had a vision of what the podcast would look like (or should I say sound like) if I actually made it 100 episodes. Regardless of my lack of vision, I’m certainly excited to be here.

Enjoy this recap episode and I look forward to serving you even more with the next 100 episodes.

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Is Porn Ok in Marriage?

We just want to spice up our sex life

I’ve been asked this question so many times I figured it was time to do the research and write an article. Is porn okay in marriage? Can watching porn together as a married couple help spice up our sex life? Well, let’s dive in to find out.

I understand the common question of using pornography to spice up the sex life within a marriage. A marriage relationship can suffer through life circumstances and it’s often times sexual satisfaction that takes the greatest hit. In the desperate struggle to regain sexual satisfaction, it seems intuitive to view pornography together in order to spice things up a bit.

Okay, so intuitively porn could solve our sex problems. It seems logical that it’s okay to use pornography in our marriage. But is it?

099 – 7 Benefits of Journaling

And why you should start journaling today

Welcome to episode 99 of the REAL Family Podcast. This podcast offers real help and hope for every family. In today’s episode, we will discuss the benefits of a regular journaling routine.

Most people of skeptical of the journaling. Its practice is often viewed as the odd behavior of the social recluse or means of practice for the professional writer. Few actually recognize journaling for the value it brings to one’s life.

In an effort to get you off the fence and into the practice of journaling regularly, let me share with you my personal experience. I’ll spare you the bore of statistics and scientific studies. I’ve practiced several types of journaling for several years now. Let me describe the benefits I’ve seen in my own life directly related to journaling.

Also in this episode – email question
From: Jay

I appreciate your articles about high and low desire spouses. I was hoping you would address the topic of frequency. What do you feel is an acceptable frequency for sex in a healthy marriage?

Part of my answer to Jay’s question can be found here.

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Power of Gratitude

It isn’t just for the Thanksgiving holiday

The power of gratitude seems to be well known these days. However, gratitude is seldom practiced. Why do so many people neglect this simple practice when it has so many benefits?

Gratitude has been proven to increase happiness, health, productivity, relationships, and so much more. Gratitude isn’t exactly a magic pill easily taken with a glass of water, but it is rather simple to practice. In this article, I’ll share with you a few of the many benefits of gratitude and how you can easily incorporate gratitude into your daily life.

Let’s first talk about the benefits.

098 – 4 Ways To Maintain Your Marriage

A well maintained marriage is a happy marriage

Welcome to episode 98 of the REAL Family Podcast. This podcast offers real help and hope for every family. In today’s episode, we will discuss how to properly maintain your marriage.

My dad was a mechanic, so proper maintenance of anything with an engine was simply non-negotiable. As I matured through my teenage years and into driving, Dad taught me all in details needed to properly maintain my car. I hated it, but it has turned out to be a very valuable skill over the years.

Marriage isn’t really any different than an automobile when it comes to maintenance. Every marriage requires proper maintenance. In today’s podcast, I share with you 4 ways to properly maintain your marriage.

Also in this episode – email question
From: Dennis

I recently listened to podcast episode 75 regarding communication. I was hoping you would address how to communicate when one spouse doesn’t want to talk. I often ask my wife if everything is ok and she simply replies with fine. I know something is wrong, but she doesn’t want to talk about it. How would you suggest I handle her response?

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6 Reasons She Is So Stressed

And how you can reduce it

I violated my own advice and wisdom I’ve supposedly learned from past bad experiences. I opened up the subject at the exact moment we were lying down in bed. A good night’s sleep was just about to slip through my fingers and, worse, I was about to ensure Jennifer didn’t sleep that night as well. For some stupid reason, I opened up the subject of Jennifer’s stress level right at bedtime.

The argument that ensued and the awkwardness in our relationship over the next few days caused me to consider the reasons for my wife’s stress level. Over our twenty-three year marriage, we’ve dealt with high stress on several occasions. My self-reflective nature kicked into high gear as I considered the reasons for Jennifer’s stress.

I’ve identified six areas of our relationship that I’ve contributed to Jennifer’s high-stress level. I’m certain there are more areas, but let’s just start with these six. I share these from experience, not hypothetical conjecture.

I’m going to speak in a very direct manner in this article for the sake of clarity for my male readers. Guys, I’m not trying to be rude or judgmental. I’m just trying to be clear, because “to be unclear is to be unkind.” -@DaveRamsey

Your wife is so stressed because…

097 – Real Men Connect

Interview with Dr. Joe Martin

Welcome to episode 97 of the REAL Family Podcast. This podcast offers real help and hope for every family. In today’s episode, we will discuss how real men can connect with other real men.

I’m honored to share with you an interview I had with Dr. Joe Martin. Dr. Martin is an award-winning international speaker, author, educator, and certified “man builder.” He’s authored or co-authored nine books, including Are you the Man: 201 Lessons I Wish My Dad Would Have Taught Me, The Real Man Spiritual Leader Blueprint, and Gifts & Handkerchiefs: A Lesson in Servant Leadership. Joe has spoken to more than 750 businesses, organizations, churches, colleges & universities, and K-12 schools/districts, and he was voted “National Speaker of the Year” by the Association for the Promotion of Campus Activities. He’s also the host of “Real Men Connect,” the #1 top-rated podcast on iTunes for Christian Men. To find out more about his remarkable story of redemption from abject poverty, abandonment, abuse, and addiction, visit him on the web at www.RealMenConnect.com.

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096 – Should A Christian Drink

My personal story

Welcome to episode 96 of the REAL Family Podcast. This podcast offers real help and hope for every family. In today’s episode, we will discuss the question of should a Christian drink.

This isn’t my typical podcast episode at all. You will notice the difference from the very beginning. I know it’s a touchy topic that offends many, but I hope you’ll listen to my personal story and know that I share it with love – not judgment or condemnation.

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7 Steps to Forgiveness

Forgiveness isn’t easy, but it is possible

Forgiveness is always more difficult than an apology. It seems so unfair, but in addition to being hurt, the offended spouse is responsible for the most difficult aspect of restoration – forgiveness.

While having breakfast with a mentor, we entered into a discussion about alcohol. I don’t recall how we got onto the subject, but I certainly remember how it ended. During the discussion, he asked me about my thoughts or feelings about should a Christian consume alcohol. I gave him the same answer I’ve offered probably hundreds of times.

“I’m a total abstainer. I believe I have biblical grounds for such a stance, but more practically I avoid alcohol because my dad is an alcoholic and it scares me.” As usual, this response invoked a few more questions about my dad and my biblical support for abstinence. But it was the final question my mentor asked that haunted me for months. “Have you forgiven your dad,” he asked.

“Umm, well… I think I have,” was my sheepish answer.

It took me months, but I was finally able to work through these 7 steps of forgiveness. This forgiveness has enabled me to begin rebuilding a better relationship with my dad. These steps of forgiveness will certainly help you restore your marriage relationship as well.