Meet Wally

The impact of adult engagement in the life of an orphan boy

Today’s article is a guest post by Andy Lepper. Andy is the founder of No Longer Orphans, an orphanage for boys in North India. The story of Wally is an excerpt from Andy’s book; Birds, Buffaloes, and Birthday Bread. I recently met Andy at a conference where I heard Wally’s story and the incredible work of this great orphanage. As you read the story of Wally, pay close attention to the positive impact loving, adult engagement has in the life of this wonderful boy. Wally is incredibly inspiring for his perseverance through difficulty. Andy is incredibly inspiring for his enduring love for the boys of his orphanage.

Meet Wally; 10/07/14

This is not an easy story to tell, but it needs to be told. For safety reasons, we have changed this boy’s name in the story to Walrus, or Wally. Wally is twelve years old. Wally’s father lost his mother in a gambling debt – a card game gone wrong. I wish this was a fictional story, but it is not.

Meet Wally

His father truly lost his mother in a drunken card game. His mother was now indebted to and had to leave with another man. When his father came out of his drunken, high stupor, he realized what he had done. He did the only thing a coward knows how to do. He took it out on Wally. He beat him so severely that he cracked and broke Wally’s skull. You read that right. The father beat his own son so badly that HE BROKE HIS SKULL!!!! I am crying just thinking about it. Wally was knocked unconscious and drifted in and out of consciousness for the next two days. His mother waited for two days before she built up enough courage to run away from her new “man.” She ran to the police who also brought in social workers. They went to the home and found Wally and his brother. Wally was admitted into the hospital and slipped into a coma for a month. That was honestly the safest place he could be. After he came to, he, his mother, and his brother stayed at a battered women’s shelter, but it was only temporary. The police and social workers brought the two brothers to us. His mother was also there. It was emotional. The boys did not want to leave their mother. The younger brother quickly assimilated and was having fun in no time. But Wally was not happy. In fact, after his mother left, he cried uncontrollably and cut his arm. He would have done anything to have his mother come and take him away. I sat with him and held him. I didn’t talk too much, tell him that things were better, or that this was happening for a purpose. I just simply held onto him, and he clung to me.

067 – What To Do When Your Child Hates You

How to prepare for the moment your child says they hate you

Welcome to episode 67 of the REAL Men Podcast. This podcast will challenge, encourage, and equip us to be God’s man at home. In today’s episode, we will discuss what to do when your child claims to hate you.

What To Do When Your Child Hates You

For some parents it seems like an every day occurrence. For others it’s a worst nightmare. In frustration and anger a child yells “I hate you, dad.” Today we’ll discuss how to best handle such a situation.

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065 – 6 Tips For Great Conversations With Your Teenager

How to capitalize on those rare moments they actually want to talk.

Welcome to episode 65 of the REAL Men Podcast. This podcast will challenge, encourage, and equip us to be God’s man at home. In today’s episode, we will discuss tips for having great conversations with your teenagers.

6 Tips For Great Conversation With Your Teenager

How many parents long for and would thoroughly enjoy a great conversation with your children? This is especially true with parents of teenagers. Gone are the days your children would verbally unpack their entire day with great excitement and enthusiasm. Now the typical parent-child conversation is restricted to single syllable words at best; often we only get grunts, moans, and the occasional slight head nod. Well, I feel your pain. Today’s podcast will equip you to capitalize on the rare occasion that your teenage wants to talk.

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064 – Act Like A Man

Our society is full of adult age boys, don’t be one of them.

Welcome to episode 64 of the REAL Men Podcast. This podcast will challenge, encourage, and equip us to be God’s man at home. In today’s episode, I will share the audio of a speech I recently shared with a group of men at Cartersville First Baptist Church.

Act Like A Man

Taken from Paul’s instructions in 1 Corinthians, I’ll share what is looks like to act like a man. Unfortunately, I have personal illustrations of what not to do. I’ll share some of those and turn them around to equip men to be God’s man at home.

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How To Get Desired Behavior From Your Children

A proven method that even my eleven year old son understands

He’s eleven, but apparently he gets it. My son probably has no idea the power that he possesses. I’m certain he can’t articulate the influence his actions have, but luckily I can. My eleven year old son knows how to get his desired behavior from others.

How to get desired behavior

It was about seven in the evening on a Tuesday. The work day was particularly stressful and I was exhausted when I finally got home. My youngest son wanted me to play a little basketball with him in the driveway. He’s all jazzed up about basketball since March Madness is now in full swing. Reluctantly, I agreed to play him a quick game to twenty. About twenty minutes later, I had beaten him by just four points. As we walked back into the house, my son wrapped his arms around me for big bear-hug. “Dad, I love when you play basketball with me. Thanks for playing,” he said.

Do you wish your children would clean their room? Do you want your teenager to be more respectful? We all have desired behaviors of our children. We struggle with how we go about getting our desired behavior from our kids.

It’s clear to me now. My son has proven it to me. One simple approach can get the behavior you desire. It’s a philosophy that is effective in every setting from the corporate boardroom to the toddler bedroom.

What is this simple method?

062 – Being A True Family Man

An interview with Dave Johnson

Welcome to episode 62 of the REAL Men Podcast. This podcast will challenge, encourage, and equip us to be God’s man at home. In today’s episode, we will discuss being a true family man with Dave Johnson.

True Family Men

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061 – A Father’s Influence In The Life Of His Daughter

Observations of my father-in-law's influence in the life of my wife

Welcome to episode 61 of the REAL Men Podcast. This podcast will challenge, encourage, and equip us to be God’s man at home. In today’s episode, we will discuss a father’s influence in the life of his daughter.

Dad's Influence in the Life of His Daughter

During the recent passing of my father-in-law, I observed some profound evidence that fathers have tremendous influence in the life of their daughters. I’ll share those observations in today’s podcast.

If you have a daughter or ever might have a daughter, today’s podcast is a must listen. Be sure to share this podcast with other men that have daughters also.

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How To Prepare For A Dating Daughter

Required reading for dads with daughters

Are you prepared for the day your daughter starts dating? Is she already dating? Furthermore, is your daughter prepared for dating?

How to prepare for a dating daughter

With a ninth grade daughter on my hands, my sleepless nights are becoming consumed with worry about her preparedness and my desire to avoid prison. I recently awoke at 2:45am in a minor panic attack fueled by fear that my girl was growing up. As I sat on the edge of her bed during our bedtime routine, the black sequin dress she planned to wear to the pending school dance caught my eye. Fortunately, the dress coverage is dad approved. It isn’t the dress or the dance that concerns me. It’s the fact she is growing into the age of dating.

It is possible to prepare your daughter for dating. It is also possible to prepare yourself and the rest of the family for the inevitable.

057 – How To Get Your Children To Listen

4 proven ways to gain respectful attention from your children

Welcome to episode 57 of the REAL Men Podcast. This podcast will challenge, encourage, and equip us to be God’s man at home. In today’s episode, we will discuss tried and proven ways to get your children to listen.

How To Get Your Children To Listen

Ever felt like your children ignore your instructions to clean their room, address adults with sir and ma’am, or complete your math homework? Every parent has struggled to get their children to listen. You are not alone. In today’s podcast, we will cover proven ways to gain respectful attention from your children.

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Explaining The Prosperity Gospel

The Gospel isn’t prosperous, but the Bible is

As my son and I left the church after a men’s ministry event, we scurried across the parking lot through the cold, dark night. We jumped into my rather average (but paid for!) Toyota Tacoma. My son spotted another gentlemen rushing to his car as I started the truck to get the heater turned on. As we sat briefly holding our hands in front of the heater vents, hoping the act would cause the air to heat faster, I noticed the wheels turning in my son’s mind.

Prosperity Gospel

He watched the other gentleman get into his car and soon began to ask me a couple questions. My eleven year old son recognized the difference between my very average pickup truck and the old “beater” (to use a Dave Ramsey term) of the other gentleman. I didn’t know what he was about to say, but I could see the questions coming.

“Dad, check out that guy’s car. Do you think it even has a heater?” No sooner had I told him that I didn’t know than he followed up with a deep theological question. His observation was that while this gentleman served and worship Jesus (assumably a Christian) just like we do, he wasn’t blessed with material possessions like we are. This isn’t a verbatim quote of his followup question, but certainly captures the essence of his question.

This provided me the opportunity to explain to my young son the fallacy of the prosperity gospel or prosperity preaching. He had heard the terms, but wasn’t sure what they mean. So I launched into an explanation that likely felt a bit like a sermon to my young son. I sure hope some of my sermon sticks in his young mind.

First, what is the prosperity gospel or prosperity preaching?