072 – Best Way To Get Your Teenager To Talk

Utilizing the most influential 15 minutes of your teenager’s day

Welcome to episode 72 of the REAL Men Podcast. This podcast will challenge, encourage, and equip us to be God’s man at home. In today’s episode, we will discuss overcoming the communication barriers that prevents meaningful conversation between parent and teenager.

Best Way To Get Your Teenager To Talk

Few teenagers are forthcoming with verbose answers to questions posed by their parents. In today’s podcast, I share the secret of the most influential fifteen minutes in your teenager’s day. Utilizing these precious few minutes can result in deeply meaningful conversation with your teenager.

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070 – Transgender Restrooms & Other Touch Topics

How to discuss these issues with your children

Welcome to episode 70 of the REAL Men Podcast. This podcast will challenge, encourage, and equip us to be God’s man at home. In today’s episode, we will discuss transgender restrooms and other touchy topics. You’ll learn how to properly discuss these issues with your children.

Transgender Restrooms & Other Touch Topics

Don’t allow the world to influence your child on this very touchy, but important, topics. Taking a stand for truth regarding these issues requires tremendous courage and wisdom that only you can give to your children.

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To My Future Son-in-law’s Dad

Please teach him to climb a tree

Sir, you don’t know me yet. But rest assured, you will know me well as our children progress in their relationship. More importantly, you will understand well my expectations of any young man that dates my daughter. Maybe you have a daughter also, maybe you don’t. But surely you can understand why I would have such high expectations of my future son-in-law.

To My Future Son-in-law's Dad

Your son has little chance of meeting my expectations without your intentional engagement and teaching in his life. Please do not abdicate your responsibilities to school teachers, youth ministers, church members, or even his mother. If you do, a moral façade will be created that robs your son of the blessing of true moral character and hides your son’s true nature from my daughter. Others can mold a nice façade around your son, but only you can build a proper foundation.

Unlike all the clichés you read about, I have no plans to clean my shotgun while your son is in my home. I don’t plan to take him snipe hunting. I will not be asking my police buddies for any background checks on your family.

However, I will communicate clearly with your son my expectations. It would be much better for him if he hears these things from you first. Let me share a few things that I hope you teach your son long before he pops the question to my daughter.

Impacts Of An Absent Father

4 ways your absence hinders your children

I found myself locked inside a state penitentiary when well hidden memories of my childhood began to surface. Memories of an absentee dad and the negative impacts that weren’t even recognized until adulthood rushed through my mind. It was totally unexpected, therefore I was unprepared for the uncontrollable sobbing that commenced. Standing among dozens of men in their white, prison uniforms, I felt the need to get my emotions under control as quickly as possible.

Returning Hearts Celebration

To be clear, I was locked behind bars in a state penitentiary, but not as a convicted felon. Unlike most of the other men in the room, I wasn’t wearing the white, prison uniform. I was there as a volunteer. I was a part of a large contingent of people desiring to reunite imprisoned fathers with their children, even if it was just this one day.

Heartbound Ministries hosts ministry events in various prisons called Returning Hearts Celebrations. Returning Hearts Celebrations unite children and their incarcerated parent on the prison grounds for an unforgettable day of games, food, crafts, relationship building, and teaching to facilitate the healing process and break the cycle of crime and incarceration in families. I was super excited to be asked to speak to all the men of this state prison and challenge them to act like men.

Meet Wally

The impact of adult engagement in the life of an orphan boy

Today’s article is a guest post by Andy Lepper. Andy is the founder of No Longer Orphans, an orphanage for boys in North India. The story of Wally is an excerpt from Andy’s book; Birds, Buffaloes, and Birthday Bread. I recently met Andy at a conference where I heard Wally’s story and the incredible work of this great orphanage. As you read the story of Wally, pay close attention to the positive impact loving, adult engagement has in the life of this wonderful boy. Wally is incredibly inspiring for his perseverance through difficulty. Andy is incredibly inspiring for his enduring love for the boys of his orphanage.

Meet Wally; 10/07/14

This is not an easy story to tell, but it needs to be told. For safety reasons, we have changed this boy’s name in the story to Walrus, or Wally. Wally is twelve years old. Wally’s father lost his mother in a gambling debt – a card game gone wrong. I wish this was a fictional story, but it is not.

Meet Wally

His father truly lost his mother in a drunken card game. His mother was now indebted to and had to leave with another man. When his father came out of his drunken, high stupor, he realized what he had done. He did the only thing a coward knows how to do. He took it out on Wally. He beat him so severely that he cracked and broke Wally’s skull. You read that right. The father beat his own son so badly that HE BROKE HIS SKULL!!!! I am crying just thinking about it. Wally was knocked unconscious and drifted in and out of consciousness for the next two days. His mother waited for two days before she built up enough courage to run away from her new “man.” She ran to the police who also brought in social workers. They went to the home and found Wally and his brother. Wally was admitted into the hospital and slipped into a coma for a month. That was honestly the safest place he could be. After he came to, he, his mother, and his brother stayed at a battered women’s shelter, but it was only temporary. The police and social workers brought the two brothers to us. His mother was also there. It was emotional. The boys did not want to leave their mother. The younger brother quickly assimilated and was having fun in no time. But Wally was not happy. In fact, after his mother left, he cried uncontrollably and cut his arm. He would have done anything to have his mother come and take him away. I sat with him and held him. I didn’t talk too much, tell him that things were better, or that this was happening for a purpose. I just simply held onto him, and he clung to me.

067 – What To Do When Your Child Hates You

How to prepare for the moment your child says they hate you

Welcome to episode 67 of the REAL Men Podcast. This podcast will challenge, encourage, and equip us to be God’s man at home. In today’s episode, we will discuss what to do when your child claims to hate you.

What To Do When Your Child Hates You

For some parents it seems like an every day occurrence. For others it’s a worst nightmare. In frustration and anger a child yells “I hate you, dad.” Today we’ll discuss how to best handle such a situation.

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065 – 6 Tips For Great Conversations With Your Teenager

How to capitalize on those rare moments they actually want to talk.

Welcome to episode 65 of the REAL Men Podcast. This podcast will challenge, encourage, and equip us to be God’s man at home. In today’s episode, we will discuss tips for having great conversations with your teenagers.

6 Tips For Great Conversation With Your Teenager

How many parents long for and would thoroughly enjoy a great conversation with your children? This is especially true with parents of teenagers. Gone are the days your children would verbally unpack their entire day with great excitement and enthusiasm. Now the typical parent-child conversation is restricted to single syllable words at best; often we only get grunts, moans, and the occasional slight head nod. Well, I feel your pain. Today’s podcast will equip you to capitalize on the rare occasion that your teenage wants to talk.

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064 – Act Like A Man

Our society is full of adult age boys, don’t be one of them.

Welcome to episode 64 of the REAL Men Podcast. This podcast will challenge, encourage, and equip us to be God’s man at home. In today’s episode, I will share the audio of a speech I recently shared with a group of men at Cartersville First Baptist Church.

Act Like A Man

Taken from Paul’s instructions in 1 Corinthians, I’ll share what is looks like to act like a man. Unfortunately, I have personal illustrations of what not to do. I’ll share some of those and turn them around to equip men to be God’s man at home.

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How To Get Desired Behavior From Your Children

A proven method that even my eleven year old son understands

He’s eleven, but apparently he gets it. My son probably has no idea the power that he possesses. I’m certain he can’t articulate the influence his actions have, but luckily I can. My eleven year old son knows how to get his desired behavior from others.

How to get desired behavior

It was about seven in the evening on a Tuesday. The work day was particularly stressful and I was exhausted when I finally got home. My youngest son wanted me to play a little basketball with him in the driveway. He’s all jazzed up about basketball since March Madness is now in full swing. Reluctantly, I agreed to play him a quick game to twenty. About twenty minutes later, I had beaten him by just four points. As we walked back into the house, my son wrapped his arms around me for big bear-hug. “Dad, I love when you play basketball with me. Thanks for playing,” he said.

Do you wish your children would clean their room? Do you want your teenager to be more respectful? We all have desired behaviors of our children. We struggle with how we go about getting our desired behavior from our kids.

It’s clear to me now. My son has proven it to me. One simple approach can get the behavior you desire. It’s a philosophy that is effective in every setting from the corporate boardroom to the toddler bedroom.

What is this simple method?

062 – Being A True Family Man

An interview with Dave Johnson

Welcome to episode 62 of the REAL Men Podcast. This podcast will challenge, encourage, and equip us to be God’s man at home. In today’s episode, we will discuss being a true family man with Dave Johnson.

True Family Men

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