103 – My Personal Focus in 2018

What’s your focus for 2018?

Welcome to episode 103 of the REAL Family Podcast. This podcast offers real help and hope for every family. In today’s episode, we will discuss the New Year and my personal focus for 2018.

Some refer to it as their annual theme or word of the year. Others call it a New Year’s resolution. Me? I’m just calling it my 2018 focus.

In today’s podcast, I’ll share with you the focus I’ve chosen for 2018. I’ll explain the details of my focus and why I’ve selected it.

What is your focus for 2018?

Also in this episode – email question
From: Cassie

You claim to be a Christian and I believe you are sincere in those claims. Though you don’t always mention the Bible references, I recognize much of your advice to be from the Bible. Why do you insist on not mentioning the Bible and even seemingly apologizing when you do mention the Bible?

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101 – Marriage Advice to Ignore

Common sources of advice that could ruin your marriage

Welcome to episode 101 of the REAL Family Podcast. This podcast offers real help and hope for every family. In today’s episode, we will discuss marriage advice you should ignore.

When your marriage begins to struggle, it’s natural to seek help and advice. Unfortunately, many look to all the wrong places for marriage advice. In today’s podcast, I’ll share a few place and people to avoid when seeking marriage advice.

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100 – A Real Family Podcast Recap

And why I still do what I do

Welcome to episode 100 of the REAL Family Podcast. This podcast offers real help and hope for every family. In today’s episode, we will discuss the history of the REAL Family Podcast.

In the beginning, my personal goal with podcasting was to publish more than seven episodes. I created this goal for myself because I had read statistics that suggested most podcasters don’t make past seven episodes.

Now here we have episode 100. I’m not sure I really had a vision of what the podcast would look like (or should I say sound like) if I actually made it 100 episodes. Regardless of my lack of vision, I’m certainly excited to be here.

Enjoy this recap episode and I look forward to serving you even more with the next 100 episodes.

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099 – 7 Benefits of Journaling

And why you should start journaling today

Welcome to episode 99 of the REAL Family Podcast. This podcast offers real help and hope for every family. In today’s episode, we will discuss the benefits of a regular journaling routine.

Most people of skeptical of the journaling. Its practice is often viewed as the odd behavior of the social recluse or means of practice for the professional writer. Few actually recognize journaling for the value it brings to one’s life.

In an effort to get you off the fence and into the practice of journaling regularly, let me share with you my personal experience. I’ll spare you the bore of statistics and scientific studies. I’ve practiced several types of journaling for several years now. Let me describe the benefits I’ve seen in my own life directly related to journaling.

Also in this episode – email question
From: Jay

I appreciate your articles about high and low desire spouses. I was hoping you would address the topic of frequency. What do you feel is an acceptable frequency for sex in a healthy marriage?

Part of my answer to Jay’s question can be found here.

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Power of Gratitude

It isn’t just for the Thanksgiving holiday

The power of gratitude seems to be well known these days. However, gratitude is seldom practiced. Why do so many people neglect this simple practice when it has so many benefits?

Gratitude has been proven to increase happiness, health, productivity, relationships, and so much more. Gratitude isn’t exactly a magic pill easily taken with a glass of water, but it is rather simple to practice. In this article, I’ll share with you a few of the many benefits of gratitude and how you can easily incorporate gratitude into your daily life.

Let’s first talk about the benefits.

097 – Real Men Connect

Interview with Dr. Joe Martin

Welcome to episode 97 of the REAL Family Podcast. This podcast offers real help and hope for every family. In today’s episode, we will discuss how real men can connect with other real men.

I’m honored to share with you an interview I had with Dr. Joe Martin. Dr. Martin is an award-winning international speaker, author, educator, and certified “man builder.” He’s authored or co-authored nine books, including Are you the Man: 201 Lessons I Wish My Dad Would Have Taught Me, The Real Man Spiritual Leader Blueprint, and Gifts & Handkerchiefs: A Lesson in Servant Leadership. Joe has spoken to more than 750 businesses, organizations, churches, colleges & universities, and K-12 schools/districts, and he was voted “National Speaker of the Year” by the Association for the Promotion of Campus Activities. He’s also the host of “Real Men Connect,” the #1 top-rated podcast on iTunes for Christian Men. To find out more about his remarkable story of redemption from abject poverty, abandonment, abuse, and addiction, visit him on the web at www.RealMenConnect.com.

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096 – Should A Christian Drink

My personal story

Welcome to episode 96 of the REAL Family Podcast. This podcast offers real help and hope for every family. In today’s episode, we will discuss the question of should a Christian drink.

This isn’t my typical podcast episode at all. You will notice the difference from the very beginning. I know it’s a touchy topic that offends many, but I hope you’ll listen to my personal story and know that I share it with love – not judgment or condemnation.

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Why Do We Treat Strangers Better Than Family?

It’s common behavior, but it doesn’t have to be

I’ve watched it happen in our family numerous times. We are caught up in a heated argument among ourselves one second, then smiling, shaking hands, and cordially greeting near strangers the next second. As I’ve witnessed this behavior in our family, I ask why do we treat strangers better than family?

Believe it or not, this is a common and explainable phenomenon. Every marriage relationship will eventually experience the reality of being more polite and pleasant with strangers than the spouse. Parents will tend to be more patient and caring of other children over their own.

Let me share a couple quick examples in my own life. Consider the Sunday morning routine in our home. Church for us begins at 9:30 am. No one in our family is particularly high maintenance and require exorbitant amounts of time to get ready for church. Yet, we often find ourselves rushing across town to get there on time.

I have no patience for being late. Well, let’s revisit that statement in just a moment. My frustration with running late leads to a fierce argument on the drive to church. I’m barking orders at the kids to hurry to their respective areas of the church. Jennifer and I have begun a downward spiral of harsh words that only mutual repentance and forgiveness can help.

But then we arrive at the church. As we stroll across the parking lot into the church, we smile and ever so pleasantly greet everyone we encounter. I even cheerfully great those couples that arrive late to our group Bible study. Clearly, my impatience with tardiness only applies to my family. Similarly, I find myself listening intently and conversing deeply with small children I hardly know. I then rise to my feet and give the command to my own children, “get in the van, it’s time to go!”

The explanation of this common behavior is rather simple. It isn’t that our spouse or children have so drastically changed over time that we now loathe them.

092 – One of God’s Greatest Gifts to the World

An Interview with Stephen Buckner - Part 2

Welcome to episode 92 of the REAL Family Podcast. This podcast offers real help and hope for every family. In today’s episode, we have the opportunity to hear from my good friend, Stephen Buckner regarding one of God’s greatest gift to the world.

Stephen and Debbie Buckner are passionate about strengthening marriages because it’s one of God’s greatest gifts to the world.  They’ve been married for over 21 years and live in Fort Wayne, Indiana.
 
Stephen and Debbie’s primary mission is to help local churches build ongoing, comprehensive marriage ministries.  They believe the church is the Body of Christ and the hope of the world; therefore if the dream of marriage is going to be restored, it will happen in, and through, local churches.

They are also seasoned speakers with a presentation style that is fresh, unique, and honest.  They’ve been through more than their share of tough times in marriage, and they are not afraid to talk about it.

Stephen and Debbie founded Hot Marriage, Inc., an organization committed to strengthening individual couples by partnering with churches to build ongoing marriage ministry.

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091 – One of God’s Greatest Gifts to the World

An Interview with Stephen Buckner - Part 1

Welcome to episode 91 of the REAL Family Podcast. This podcast offers real help and hope for every family. In today’s episode, we have the opportunity to hear from my good friend, Stephen Buckner regarding one of God’s greatest gifts to the world.

Stephen and Debbie Buckner are passionate about strengthening marriages because it’s one of God’s greatest gifts to the world.  They’ve been married for over 21 years and live in Fort Wayne, Indiana. 

Stephen and Debbie’s primary mission is to help local churches build ongoing, comprehensive marriage ministries.  They believe the church is the Body of Christ and the hope of the world; therefore if the dream of marriage is going to be restored, it will happen in, and through, local churches.

They are also seasoned speakers with a presentation style that is fresh, unique, and honest.  They’ve been through more than their share of tough times in marriage, and they are not afraid to talk about it.

Stephen and Debbie founded Hot Marriage, Inc., an organization committed to strengthening individual couples by partnering with churches to build ongoing marriage ministry.

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