To My Future Son-in-law’s Dad

Please teach him to climb a tree

Sir, you don’t know me yet. But rest assured, you will know me well as our children progress in their relationship. More importantly, you will understand well my expectations of any young man that dates my daughter. Maybe you have a daughter also, maybe you don’t. But surely you can understand why I would have such high expectations of my future son-in-law.

To My Future Son-in-law's Dad

Your son has little chance of meeting my expectations without your intentional engagement and teaching in his life. Please do not abdicate your responsibilities to school teachers, youth ministers, church members, or even his mother. If you do, a moral façade will be created that robs your son of the blessing of true moral character and hides your son’s true nature from my daughter. Others can mold a nice façade around your son, but only you can build a proper foundation.

Unlike all the clichés you read about, I have no plans to clean my shotgun while your son is in my home. I don’t plan to take him snipe hunting. I will not be asking my police buddies for any background checks on your family.

However, I will communicate clearly with your son my expectations. It would be much better for him if he hears these things from you first. Let me share a few things that I hope you teach your son long before he pops the question to my daughter.

069 – The Importance Of Community

Maybe it still takes a village…

Welcome to episode 69 of the REAL Men Podcast. This podcast will challenge, encourage, and equip us to be God’s man at home. In today’s episode, we will discuss the importance of community in the life of your family.

importance of community

Community as defined as a group of people having a particular characteristic in common. It could be a community of baseball players and parents, school mates and families, or church family; all are very beneficial for your family. Today’s podcast will discuss seven of those benefits.

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Government Recognizes The Importance Of Family

The CBO addresses a staggering statistic regarding young men

Did you know that in 2014 nearly one in six men (ages 18-34) in the U.S. were either jobless or incarcerated? I recently read an article entitled CBO: Nearly 1 in 6 Young Men in U.S. Jobless or Incarcerated. The report was provided by the Congressional Budget Office, so the article was heavily focused on the economic causes and impacts from this statistic. I try to discipline my intake of political rhetoric these days, but I just couldn’t avoid such a headline. One in six men? Really?

Hard Work

While the CBO article didn’t explicitly express the importance of family, it certainly shed light on the harsh realities of the breakup of the traditional family. According to the CBO, “young men who are jobless or incarcerated today are less likely to marry, less likely to stay married, and less likely to have children who live in two-parent households than their counterparts who are employed or in school. Because the earnings of the next generation are likely to be affected by the families in which they grow up, adverse consequences for today’s families can have long-run economic impacts.”

So there you have it. Jobless and incarcerated young men can eventually result in long-run economic impacts. Well duh! I’m being a bit facetious I know. I certainly expect the CBO to highlight the economic impacts of such a staggering number. But did you notice in that statement the other negative impacts mentioned by the CBO?

068 – Are You Confusing Your Family

This happens to be my greatest fear

Welcome to episode 68 of the REAL Men Podcast. This podcast will challenge, encourage, and equip us to be God’s man at home. In today’s episode, we will discuss my greatest fear; confusing my family.

Confusing My Family

I’ll explain the meaning behind my greatest fear and how I arrived at this revelation. Additionally, I’ll share the only certain way to overcome your fears and pressing through them to be God’s man at home.

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The Importance Of Recess

It isn’t just for elementary school anymore

Think back to your elementary school days. Do you remember climbing on the jungle bars, chasing little girls with grasshoppers, or playing kickball during recess? That hour of recess seemed to pass in five minutes. And it provided a much needed break from the rigors of math, science, history, and grammar. The same is true for marriage. Many overlook the importance of recess.

The Importance Of Recess

As I consider the 22 years of our marriage, I can identify a few really rough seasons. Some seasons that lasted months. And some even that had us on the verge of divorce. Luckily, Jennifer and I have never threatened each other will leaving or divorce, but I can identify times that it crossed my mind and I know she felt the same way.

So what got us past those rough seasons of our marriage? Without exception, it was a period of recess that restored our relationship. Now by recess, I’m not talking about a period of separation from each other. I’m talking about a recess from the rest of life. We don’t recognize it in the fog of war, but it’s normal, everyday life that pushes our relationship to the brink of separation.

While I can identify periods of recess as the savior of our marriage, my mentoring experience with other men suggests the absence of an occasional recess throws a marriage into a tailspin. As I talk with men that are facing almost certain divorce, I ask questions related to how often they spend time alone, away from the kids, and other activities of life; time alone to just talk with one another. The answer is always some form of “we never do that.”

Are you in the midst of a marriage storm?

066 – 8 Ways Exercise Makes You A Better Husband & Father

Trust me, you’ll want to hang around for the last benefit.

Welcome to episode 66 of the REAL Men Podcast. This podcast will challenge, encourage, and equip us to be God’s man at home. In today’s episode, we will discuss how a regular exercise routine will make you a better husband and father.

8 Ways Exercise Makes You A Better Husband & Father

Few will argue against the notion that exercise is good for you. However, few understand all the benefits of regular exercise. Even fewer relate these benefits to being a husband and father. In this podcast, I’ll share how just a few minutes each day can revolutionize your family relationships.

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Tips For Creating Needed Margin In Your Life

How to overcome a hectic schedule and make time for what’s most important

Are you too busy? Does the simplest of schedule change seem to put your day into tailspin? Do you struggle to find time for important activities such as time with you children and date night with your spouse? Would you like to know how to get out of the typical rat race and enjoy the margin needed to reduce the stress from your day?

Creating Needed Margin

Life has a way of consuming every second of our day. The wisdom of Proverbs 27:1 proves itself true on a regular basis.

But we can better manage our time and create margin that allows for the uncertainty of each day and accommodates those important activities in our lives. Let’s review a few tips for creating margin in our life.

064 – Act Like A Man

Our society is full of adult age boys, don’t be one of them.

Welcome to episode 64 of the REAL Men Podcast. This podcast will challenge, encourage, and equip us to be God’s man at home. In today’s episode, I will share the audio of a speech I recently shared with a group of men at Cartersville First Baptist Church.

Act Like A Man

Taken from Paul’s instructions in 1 Corinthians, I’ll share what is looks like to act like a man. Unfortunately, I have personal illustrations of what not to do. I’ll share some of those and turn them around to equip men to be God’s man at home.

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6 Reasons Dad Should Take Their Kids On Mission Trips

How mission trips have blessed my relationship with my daughter.

Our entire family is preparing for a mission trip that my daughter and I have attended a couple times in recent years. We have connections with a missionary family (Craig & Joanna McClure and Jason & Karen Gosdin) in the Dominican Republic and have now accompanied others from church on our second short term mission trip there. While preparing for another mission trip thoughts regarding the trip continue to flood my mind, thus today’s article will detail why dad should attend a mission trip with the children.

Missions Trip

As mentioned, my daughter and I have been twice. I’d like to be all super spiritual and tell you that I saw the opportunity for a mission trip and decided to take our daughter along with me; however, the opposite is the true reality. During our church’s planning of last year’s mission trip to the Dominican Republic, our daughter became very seriously interest in going on the trip. Given her age, sending her alone was not an option. So last year I went for the sole reason to escort our daughter. That’s right, I didn’t go for some super spiritual reason; not to minister to others, nor to spread the good news of Jesus. In fact, I had so much burden on me at the time that I actually dreaded going. I had recently lost my dad to cancer, lost my grandmother to pneumonia, made a huge ministry decision, and was contemplating a major career shift. With all that on me, I went on the mission trip expecting nothing but long flights, late & sleepless nights, heat & humidity, lack of clean water, and poverty – just so I could escort our daughter.

Well, I encountered all of those expectations with my dreadful attitude; however, God as able to speak to me despite it all. And in His speaking, I was greatly blessed to discover exactly why dad should attend a mission trip with his children.

062 – Being A True Family Man

An interview with Dave Johnson

Welcome to episode 62 of the REAL Men Podcast. This podcast will challenge, encourage, and equip us to be God’s man at home. In today’s episode, we will discuss being a true family man with Dave Johnson.

True Family Men

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