DAD: Your Children Are Starving

We hear statistics thrown out in abundance that indicate the reality that dads in general are checked out and unengaged. Those statistics are almost always followed by additional statistics indicating the negative impact this has on the children of this generation. In the cases that dad is completely checked out, it is easy to understand that the children would be starving for fatherly leadership. However, let me share a very personal example of how we dads can leave our children hungry for our leadership even when we think we are doing a decent job.

Dad, Lead Your Children!

We have three children that have latched onto tennis as their sport of choice. I’m not sure how that happened as tennis has never been a sport of choice in our family. Anyway, they are really enjoying tennis and have dedicated hour upon hour to learning and competing in tennis. Recently, my wife and I recognized that they were reaching a point where they needed to do more than just take lessons and spent time on the court in order to remain competitive. It became very clear that our children would need to add strength and endurance training to their activities if they wanted to remain competitive.

Having recognized this need for additional training, I began having individual heart to heart conversations and explaining that they would need to begin exercise routines. I even demonstrated exercises they should do, how they should record their progress, and even impressed upon them how frequently they should be exercising. I finished those conversations with a statement along the lines of “this is on you now, I need to see you putting forth this extra effort to stay in tennis.” Now before you judge me for pushing my children too hard, I started by asking them to give a great amount of thought to whether they just wanted to play tennis or they really wanted to compete in tennis. They want to be competitors, and they want to win. Remember, I didn’t even pick up a tennis racquet until my children started playing. I’m not trying to relive my glory days.

How much additional effort did they devote to an exercise regiment? None, zero, nada, nil.

Initially I just assumed my children really didn’t want to truly compete in tennis or understand what it involved, but eventually a divine revelation convinced me that my children would not enter into this new territory of their lives unless I intentionally led them into it myself. Just talking about it and telling them what they needed to do, telling them how to do it, and telling them when to do it would not be sufficient. I needed to lead them in an exercise regiment myself.

I shared with my children my intention to begin a morning exercise routine with them and the fact they would need to get out of bed earlier than normal. It is hard for me to describe how my children lit up and jumped at the opportunity to be led into this new activity by dad. You may initially think they just thought it would be cool to exercise with dad, but you just have to trust me that is was much more than that to them and it was written all over their faces.

You know what happened the next morning? I didn’t have to go pull them out of the bed the next morning. On their own initiative, they set an alarm clock, got up, got dressed, and met me downstairs for exercise bright and early the next morning. We had a blast and got in 30 minutes of great exercise. That same routine, with the same level of willingness and excitement, has been repeated day after day for weeks now.

I’ve even expanded upon this morning routine to include a morning Bible devotional and prayer time, again in which my children are eager to participate. We’ve attempted devotional times in the past, but they often times were skipped because the evenings just naturally get booked up with other activities. Having the devotional in the morning avoids the busy schedule.

This intentional effort to lead my children into areas of growth like exercise and devotions/prayer has made a tremendous difference in our mornings and our entire days. You tell me how many families with preteen children enjoy the luxury of your children getting out of bed and getting dressed all on their own. And doing so very early in order to ensure they have time to complete the morning routine, get cleaned up, and get off to school.

Dad, I can’t stress it enough. LEAD YOUR CHILDREN. Your children are facing some type of uncertainty and they are starving from the lack of leadership through that uncertainty. I don’t care how good you think you are performing as a dad; do more, lead better.

Date Night Ideas

Subscribe today and receive a copy of my date night ideas guide. This guide will jump start the date night commitment in your marriage relationship.

100 Date Night Ideas

Privacy Guarantee: I will never share your email address with anyone else. Powered by ConvertKit

Please note: I reserve the right to delete comments that are offensive or off-topic.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

29 thoughts on “DAD: Your Children Are Starving

  1. Hi theгe! Someone in mу Facebook group shared this website with us so I
    camе to look it over. I’m definitely enjoying the information.
    I’m boоkmarking and will be tweeting this to my followeгs!
    Superb blog and amаzijg ԁesign.

  2. It is the best time to make somе plans fοr the futuгe annd it is time to be happy.
    I have learn this post and if I may just I desire to cоunsel you
    some attention-grabbing things or tips. Maybe you could write subsequent articles relating to this article.
    I desire to read even more issues about it!

    • Thanks for the comments. Christian leadership of all sorts is very near and dear to my heart. Therefore I will certainly be writing subsequent articles.

  3. Woah! ӏ’m really diggіng the template/theme of this blog.
    It’s simple, yet effective. A lot of times it’s hard
    tо get that “perfect balance” bеtween usability and
    visual appearance. I must say that you’ve done a fantaѕtic job with this.
    Additіonally, the blog lоads extremely fawst
    for me on Internet exploгer. Outstanding Βlog!

  4. Hey wоuld уou mind letting me know which web host you’re utilizing?
    I’ve loaded youг blog in 3 completely different
    browsers and I must say this blog loads a lot faster then moѕt.
    Can you sugget a good internet hosting provider at a honest price?
    Cheers, I appreciate it!

    • Thanks a bunch for your encouraging comments Marianne. If you don’t mind, leave some comments on how it was helpful. This will help me to focus on topics that help others the most, as helping others is certainly the goal.
      Thanks again,

    • Thanks for the comments. You should see a “Contact Us” menu on the right side of the blog. You can use that form to send me an email with any comments you would like to privately share.
      Thanks for reading,

    • Thanks for your comments. You can certainly subscribe to my RSS feed with your feed reader of choice. You can also “Subscribe To My Blog Emails” using the subscription form found on every page of my blog. This will ensure that you receive an email with each of my blog posts.
      Thanks again,

  5. I’m curіous to find out what blog plаtform уou’re using?
    I’m having some minor security problems with my lateѕt blog and I’d like to find something moгe secuгe.
    Do you have any suggestions?

    • Thanks for your comments Lurlene. What blog platform are you currently using and what type of security problems have you been having?

    • Thanks for your comments Marque. Parenting is a never ending learning exercise in leadership, and I certainly still behind a steep learning curve. Thanks for reading and sharing.

  6. I haѵe beden surfing online moгe thаn three houes
    today, yet I never found any interesting article like уours.
    It’s pretty worth enough for me. In my oρinion, if all webmasters and
    bloggers made good content as you ԁiԁ, the net will be a lot more
    useful than ever before.

  7. Hеllo there! This article couldn’t be written any better!

    Going through this article reminds me of my previous roommate!

    He continually kept preaching about this. I most certainly will
    forward this article to him. Pretty suге he’s going to have a great read.
    I appreciate you for sharing!

    • Thanks for your comments, reading, and sharing. Be sure to use the email subscription form to ensure you & your previous roommate don’t miss any articles.
      Thanks again,

  8. Some wedding dress designers develop historical themed gowns
    in Gothic, Medieval and a lot of far more historical types which are unique
    and fascinating. White also symbolizes the woman as the bride
    of Christ and He as the bridegroom. You can gather the names and contact
    information for various vendors from people you know, wedding magazines, the local phone book and from
    online wedding vendor directories.